Outcome can never equal The Effort!!!

This morning, my nephew was drawing a sketch. (he is 13years old and is a good artist). He is trying to reproduce the sketch of Goddess Durga from the newspaper. When he is about to complete his job, he asked me a doubt.

Is Durga slim or fat(in his words: దుర్గ slim గా ఉంటుందా, లావుగా ఉంటుందా )

I said she is neither slim nor Fat. She is normal. (to be exact, I said: సౌందర్య లా ఉంటుంది)

we both smiled to each other. And He completed his sketch. It came up well.

After few moments, I was thinking about one of the past incidents where in one of my friends was targetted after her presentation. Here I used purposefully the word targetted**. Before I get into the actual incident, I have a question for you!!!!

How you would react if your work is criticized on your face and on the spot when you show your output???

If you are thinking to answer, tell yourself now that this question itself is incorrect. You/We should never react to situations, we should act or respond.

It would definitely humiliating/irritatiing/suffocating/..... If not you can be called THE sthitapragna (reference:bhagavadgita). So, the point to be noted here is: never show that a person is on faulty side* at the time where he/she put lot of efforts to display the output.

Coming back to the incident, when my friend was done with her presentation ( - I missed that presentation but entered the discussion just when she was in the feedback part of the presentation. It was supposed to be a knowledge sharing session where in she has to explain a topic to 10 plus audience.) one voice said that it was not at all a good presentation - the very first sentence. And then majority of members in the session joined that voice to draw various points, flaws,... while the rest of the members preferred to stay silent (probably they are sensitive enough not to comment or shy to speak out).

The result was - this (naturally outburst) girl had decided to skip her lunch. Me and one more friend have consoled this girl and took her to lunch.
Its definitely a human tendancy, to join the majority side while speaking about an issue in public. But, in situations like above its better not even to speak any if you cannot appreciate. Though its meant to be a feedback session, it must send positive vibrations among all.
The incident is two years old, but its still fresh in my mind.

Its wise to follow the preaching of Vivekananda.

Be Bold when we appreciate and Be sensible when we have to criticize.
Appreciate Aloud and Appreciate in public. If required to criticize, ensure it is reaching ONLY the person to whom it was intended and with proper justification!!!
This approach encourages new persons, otherwise the consequences will not be wise to witness.

*conditions apply :)

** If they want to help this girl improve her skilss, they should give feedback but only to her or if shared in public, they should have polished their words.

Though it depends on the person how he/she receives the feedback (-ve or +ve)...

Its never wrong to appreciate the effort, irrespective of the output. Because Effort is never Waste!!!!!